Is something that you've not resolved making you uncomfortable? Making you suffer? Our suffering lies in the gap between what we have - like resolution - and what we don't have. Listen in as adoptee Andy explores being ok with matters unresolved and much more.
Here's a bit about Andy
"I'm an adoptee who spent more than five decades wrestling with questions about identity, belonging, and what adoption ultimately means over the course of a lifetime. Like many adoptees, I believed that if I could somehow reconnect with my biological family, I'd finally understand who I was. Ironically, they found me.
For years, I imagined that reunion would answer the biggest questions of my life. It didn't. What I found instead was something far more nuanced. They were kind people. Good people. I'm genuinely grateful to know them, and I believe they're good to their core. But they weren't my people, and they didn't hold the answers I thought they would.
Ironically, the most meaningful part of the reunion wasn't discovering who they were. It was realizing they were never responsible for defining who I was in the first place. My mother was a psychotherapist who encouraged me throughout my life to examine each stage of that journey honestly and put language to what I was experiencing. That became one of the motivating forces behind writing my memoir, Blood = Water: The Search for Identity Beyond Biology.
I think many adoptees quietly wrestle with questions about biology, identity, expectations, forgiveness, and agency, but we don't always give ourselves permission to say those thoughts out loud.
Find out about Andy's book here https://a.co/d/085HEgsk
Guests and the host are not (unless mentioned) licensed pscyho-therapists and speak from their own opinion only. Seek qualified advice if you need help.