What’s the latest in positive thinking for kids? How do you free your child from negative thinking? Especially when your child unhappy all the time. How do you make your shy child confident? Those are some of the questions I get.
I am, generally speaking, a pretty positive guy. I do have moments of worry though. So the first thing I want to say about this is it's totally okay to worry. I used to worry about worrying. Can you believe that? And I guess sometimes I still do. And it's that thing from, you know, if you've ever watched like The Secret, I watched that years ago, that the only thing to fear is fear itself. The idea that thinking negative thoughts will actually bring negative stuff into our lives. And yeah, that worried me a lot.
So anyway, we're going to talk about positivity, how to be more positive. So the first thing on this is that children do as we do, not as we say. So my dad, God bless him, I don't know, I say God bless him. I'm not a religious guy. And he’s no longer with us. He died about three years ago. But he was a pretty positive guy, but he did like me have these moments so I think we have a thing I know that the parents have a massive role to play in being positive role models for the kids.
So when I talk to my mum about this, my mum is luckily still with us. She's 82 next week. And she says one of the greatest lessons that her father gave her was the idea that she could do anything she wanted to. And that is a fantastic outlook, big picture outlook, in terms of positivity about the future. And so that's a big picture that I want to look at in terms of like the micro, the little bits of pieces of positivity.
And you think, why aren't we more positive more of the time? Well, I think it comes down to it, right here, right now for us is a lot of worry. And there's a lot of anger and there's a lot of fear. Obviously, especially about COVID-19.
Can we just ask you a question? Does that do us any good? Does worrying about it do us any good? Clearly not, it doesn't. It just makes us worry. So we're not choosing where we are. And we have a media that is very negative. We have social media, that apart from people posting pictures of fluffy kittens, is that there's a lot of anger out there. And these for me are bigger symptoms because the symptoms are the biggest thing.
So we're surrounded by a lot of negativity. And we think that and that kind of creates this mood of negativity. And we think that it's normal and natural to be worried but it's not. We don't need to be worried to take the steps that we need to keep our family safe. We don't need to be worried, we can just do what we need to do without the worry.
I'd love to hear from more dads. That’s who contacts me. And I want to support you to be able to build your child's confidence, to build your child's self-esteem, to build your child's resilience to bullying and, and do that based on everything that I've learned with 1600 kids. So people might think well, I don't need to know any of that. Well. Great. Brilliant, brilliant.
I'm here for the ones, for the people that want to know. I've got a question for you. If you want your child to do better in life than you, then your child's going have to maybe know more than you, maybe do more than you think. There's going have to be a change. So, I know that you know, this is all for me, this is all about up-skilling understanding how life works, what drives our thoughts, what drives resilience, what drives confidence.
I've been on for 12 minutes now, and I've been told, keep it short, keep it short. So less of the blurb about me. Choose more, be more positive. And be that positive role model that your child needs and maybe look at the areas of your life where you want to improve your knowledge and become, you know- I’m into this stuff, I want to become a better teacher, all my time, all my spare time is based around learning more, becoming better. I want to become better able to communicate this stuff to you. So you're better able to communicate it with your with your child. To make them more positive. To unleash their positivity. To be positive whatever happens to them.
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